From Scarcity to Abundance: How I Reclaimed My Mindset After a Toxic Relationship

 


Let’s talk about something real for a minute.

Starting over in midlife isn’t just about updating your résumé or moving into a new place. It’s emotional. It’s exhausting. It’s scary. Especially when you’re rebuilding after a toxic relationship.

You’re not just trying to create a new life—you’re trying to remember who you even are.

And for so many of us, that journey is tangled up in a really toxic belief system that we didn’t even realize we had:
Scarcity mindset.

You know what I’m talking about...

  • There’s never enough money.

  • I don’t have the time or energy to start over.

  • It’s too late for me.

  • I’m just not cut out for success, happiness, or peace.

I lived in that space for way too long.

Years of emotional and financial manipulation had worn down my self-worth. I was constantly in survival mode—just trying to get through the day, terrified to hope for anything more. Dreaming felt like a luxury I couldn’t afford.

But deep down, I knew there had to be more than just “getting by.”

My Mindset Shift: From Fear to Freedom

The turning point for me wasn’t some magical lightning bolt moment. It was a slow, steady unraveling of everything I thought I knew about success, money, and worthiness.

I started reading. Journaling. Challenging my old beliefs.

And then I came across something that felt like it was written exactly for women like me:
Abundance Amplifier: Silence Your Scarcity Mindset, a powerful program by my friend and coach, Sage Grayson.

It wasn’t just another “think positive and money will fall from the sky” kind of course. It was real. Rooted. Practical.
And most importantly, it helped me see that I wasn’t broken—I’d just been programmed to think small.



What I Learned (And What You Can, Too)

With Sage’s guidance, I learned how to:
💖 Ditch the guilt and fear that had been riding shotgun in my mind
🧠 Reframe my thoughts and habits so they actually supported my growth
💵 Open myself up to receive more—more time, more peace, more opportunities, and yes, more money

Now?
I’m building a life I love—on my terms. I’m dreaming again. I’m setting goals that feel deliciously big. And I'm no longer letting my past dictate what’s possible for my future.

If You’re Ready to Shift Too…

If you’re a woman in midlife, starting over, and tired of living like abundance is for “other people,” I highly recommend you check out Sage’s program:

👉 Click here to explore Abundance Amplifier: Silence Your Scarcity Mindset

Because abundance isn’t just for the lucky or the privileged.
It’s for you. It’s for us.

You’ve already survived so much.
Now it’s time to thrive.

With love and fierce encouragement,
Jessi 💛

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