How To Stop Playing Small and Start Living BIG!

 

Hey Radiant Soul,

Let’s get real—how many times have you held yourself back? Said no when you really wanted to say yes? Shrunk yourself to make others comfortable? Dismissed your dreams with a casual “Maybe one day”—even though that day never comes?

I see you. I’ve been you. And here’s the truth: You were not put on this earth to play small.

Yet, so many of us do. We settle for relationships that don’t fulfill us, jobs that drain us, and routines that keep us in a loop of just getting by. We tell ourselves we’re too old, too busy, too late—and we shrink our lives into a safe little box.

But here’s the thing: The box isn’t actually safe. It’s suffocating. It’s a slow death of your wild, beautiful, powerful spirit. And it’s time to break out.

Why Do We Play Small?

Before we dive into how to change, let’s call out the real reasons we keep ourselves stuck:

🔥 Fear of failure – What if I try and I fail? (But what if you try and you FLY?)
🔥 Fear of judgment – What will people think? (Spoiler: They’re too busy worrying about their own lives.)
🔥 Fear of success – What if I actually do it? Can I handle that? (YES. You can.)
🔥 Conditioning – Society tells women to be nice, small, and agreeable. To not take up too much space. To put ourselves last. (Enough of that BS.)

Now that we’ve called out these sneaky little lies, let’s get to work.

5 Steps to Start Living BIG & Bold

1. Get Clear on What You Really Want

You can’t live a big life if you don’t know what big means to you.

Ask yourself:

• What do I secretly dream about but never say out loud?
• If fear weren’t a factor, what would I do?
• What’s one thing I’ve always wanted but convinced myself I couldn’t have?

Write it down. Own it. Your desires are not random—they’re your roadmap.

2. Stop Asking for Permission

Who told you that you needed permission to take up space? To pursue your dreams? To put yourself first?

You don’t need anyone’s approval. Not your family’s, not society’s, not even that little voice in your head that tells you to “be realistic.”

💡 New mantra: I am done waiting for permission. I am claiming my life NOW.

3. Say YES Before You Feel Ready

Newsflash: You will never feel fully ready. Confidence doesn’t come before you take action—it comes because you take action.

• Want to start that business? Say yes.
• Thinking about writing a book? Say yes.
• Dreaming of a major life change? Say yes.

Then figure it out as you go. That’s how every bold, badass woman has done it before you.

4. Surround Yourself with BIG Energy

If you’re constantly around people who play small, guess what? You’ll stay small too.

🚨 Audit your circle. Who lifts you up? Who inspires you? Who believes in your dreams—even when they sound crazy? Spend more time with those people.

And if you don’t have them in your immediate circle yet? Start listening to empowering podcasts, following people who motivate you, and joining communities that challenge you to grow.

5. Do One Brave Thing This Week

Living big doesn’t happen overnight—it happens in small, courageous steps.

💡 Challenge: Do ONE thing this week that pushes you out of your comfort zone. Send the email. Sign up for the class. Speak up. Take action.

Each step you take builds momentum, and before you know it, you’re not just dreaming of a big life—you’re actually living it.

Your Life is Waiting. Are You Ready?

You are not here to be invisible. You are not here to play it safe. You are here to live fully, love boldly, and step into the most radiant, powerful version of yourself.

And it all starts with one decision: No more playing small.

Let’s go, queen. The world is waiting.

🔥 Drop a comment or reply and tell me—what’s one big move you’re making this week? I’m cheering you on every step of the way.

With love & fire,
Jessi <3